Filling fulfillment



Sometimes we focus so much on what fulfillment should look like that we forget what it is.


So we try to take the easy route because we’re desperately trying to feel this sense of accomplishment based on a perfect picture on instagram, that doesn’t show how much work it actually takes to be truly accomplished.

Then we say “it’s your mindset”, ignoring that even that introspection takes time, but most importantly, asking the right questions.


As a business developer, I always ask my clients: What are your triggers, the things that peak your curiosity? How are you reached? When do you like to be engaged? Why are you loyal to anything?


These are the first steps to finding your brand’s essence, and the pathway to defining the services you want to sell, heck, it’s even great for finding your higher self(ie).


Fulfillment is the perception of value and the sense of purpose one has from interacting with ANYTHING. Whether that’s a piece of fruit or a product, a service, an idea, fulfillment is what a great developer designs to contribute their brilliance to solve a problem that helps grow something.


Don’t confuse easy with simplicity. Easy is the first mistake to mediocre. Simple takes design.


If you’re tired of the  excess and ready for success keep reading!


Here is a great toolkit pathway:


  • What are your information feeds? The sources you consider valuable?
  • Who sets the standard for the things that YOU want to do?
  • Who do you respect and how are you inspired?
  • How many hours do you spend browsing for inspiration versus actually going through the motion of creating inspiration?
  • When inspiration peaks, do you act on it or do you schedule it for another time?


Do you find yourself constantly saying “I’ll do this tomorrow?”


If your answer leads you to quick fixes, let me just say that a bandaid never cured anything.


And here’s is the actual practice to exercise the pathway & start getting rid of excess to focus on success:


  • Step 1: List your top 10 performance indicators. Then below each indicator, list the things or projects that you need to do or you’re doing to work towards that indicator. Then leave a space or empty bullet point below.


For example: one of my key indicators is knowledge, so under this indicator, I list one big seminar or class I want to take or seminars I want to attend.


  • Step 2: List all of your monthly subscriptions and put a star on the ones you have’t used in the last week.


  • Step 3: List all of your habits, the ones you ACTUALLY do. 
  • For example: when you wake up, what’s the first thing you think about? (A though that triggers an action that you repeat daily and you consider essential).


  • Step 4: Take two pieces of papers. One is “Essentials” and the other is “Non-Essentials”.


Now, look at your key performance indicators, and the projects that are listed under each indicator.

In the two empty bullet point you left opened, list the current habits that nurture those projects which also feed that performance indicator, and the subscriptions or tools you use to develop them.


For example: one of my key indicators is knowledge, so under this indicator, I list one big seminar or class I want to take or seminars I want to attend, and a habit that nurtures that is reading books or articles on my preferred subject that nurtures knowledge in my field.  So I pay for a subscription like Marketo, because their approach very spot-on and ethical.


  • Step 5: Grab the essential and non- essential sheets.


Look at your 10 performance indicators and ask yourself “what gives me the biggest sense of fulfillment”. Then plug those indicators under the “non-essential” list.


Here’s the conclusion I have learned:


The projects that I consider essential are usually the longest projects to achieve, dragging for very long periods of time, and getting in the way of other performance indicators that would also feed my need for fulfillment.


So I flipped these around and realized that by making the quicker projects “essential”, I began to get a sense of accomplishment sooner.


I hijacked my expectations of what’s important for my EGO versus what is actually important NOW and that can be achieved faster and simpler.

Then I got very realistic on the habits I was building and how much time they consumed.

This helped me realize that I would spend WAY too much time in the morning reading up on things in Social Media, answering emails, or signing up to events. 

After doing this exercise, I had accomplished FIVE projects that I had been putting off for EIGHT months because I kept focusing on the larger and more complex ones.

I felt accomplished, which gave me the energy to work on the larger, long-tail projects. When I was done and ready to focus on the projects I had listed under “Non-Essential”, I had a fresh outtake on how to solve the roadblocks in these projects, and design a path of lesser resistance for faster results.

I also optimized my time by reading articles in the afternoon instead of the morning.

Listing all of my subscriptions helped me realized what was useful versus what was simply just hype click-baits. It also helped me free up my monthly budget by $64.

In those two weeks, I felt a huge sense of fulfillment which injected me with inspiration and sense of purpose.

Voila! Happiness has ensued.

Thanks for reading! I hope it helps you. Until next time!